We had such a lovely discussion in one of my Recovering Together classes that I felt moved to turn the conversation into a blog and share it with a wider audience. We were discussing the balance between living life and working on healing. The idea of truly integrating the tools into your life, so that they become part of your life was brought up. And that to do this, we often need to change the "why" underneath using our tools, and shift from focusing on trying to fix ourselv

When it comes to brain and nervous system retraining, one of the most transformative shifts you can make isn't about what you think—it's about how you relate to your thoughts. Many people embarking on this journey assume that success means catching and correcting every negative thought that crosses their mind. They become hypervigilant, constantly scanning their mental landscape for problems to fix. But this approach, which I call the "vigilant watchdog", often backfires. T

Anyone that has taken one of my classes or worked with me individually knows how often I say “it’s a process.” I say it a lot, because...